My wife and I are in the process of changing churches and it’s not because they’ve been involved with a sexual abuse scandal, or even because their theology is off- It’s because Mars Hill, inadvertently promotes an institutional culture of silence over their failures, and over the failures of their pastors. Yet I still love Mars Hill and the people there.
It took a while for thing to pile up enough for us to leave Mars Hill, but Mars Hill hasn’t been the easiest church to be a part of. We’ve always been in the news to some extent.
Whether rocks were thrown to break our windows by LGBTQ hate groups, or Mark Driscoll being accused of any number of things, it was always easy to find something negative about our church online, often before church leadership had time to address it.
Yet so many of the accusations and rambling about Mars Hill were off the wall, that I couldn’t take them seriously.
“Those Crazy Bloggers”
I always had the slightly uncomfortable position of being one of the people who had worked at Mars Hill, so when bloggers would throw accusations at the church, they were easy to deflect, due to my insider information. Pastor Mark spent $200,000.00 dollars on a book deal? Not a big deal- I worked in publishing since I was a kid and $200k isn’t all that much for publicity. Plus to book was great, even though fundies had a cow over the fact that the word, “sex” was used so many times in a book about Marriage.
Pastor Mark tweeted that someone confiscated his books? I personally know three of the people who tweet from his account- Driscoll wasn’t being dishonest on Twitter, just to cause trouble.
Mark Driscoll plagiarized a book? The church addressed it two weeks later (apologies and revisions were issued), even though only secondary parties ever complained, and not the original author that was supposed to have been copied. Non-compete clauses, nondisclosure policies, 14-year-old forum posts- For every accusation, there were two sides and there were logical explanations, or changes for each issue that came up.
We didn’t leave the church because of any accusations made against it. We left the church because of a lack of communication, and in turn, a failure to love the people of Mars Hill.
Mars Hill is One
The firing of Pastor Phil is what pushed us over the edge. Mars Hill has always been run as local, self-governing, churches. Yet with the advent of more advanced technology, a central preacher and a central website, Mars Hill began to be recognized as one church. Even though each church had their own staff pastors, made their own staffing choices and worked independently of the other churches, congregants began to see themselves as one church, with different branches.
Churches packed into such a small, close-knit community like Seattle are bound to overlap in many ways, yet Mars Hill never made the transition in the functionality of the churches, and so when Pastor Phil Schmidt was fired from Ballard Mars Hill, there was amazing recoil from U-District Mars Hill. People at Ballard and U-District loved Pastor Phil as did I, sitting under his teachings at many Mars Hill events. Because the churches (in theory) were supposed to function separately, a small announcement was sent to Ballard leadership, giving the reason why Pastor Phil was fired. None of the other churches were notified. None of the congregants were notified. There was no explanation, no notice and no meeting. There was, however, an explosion of blog posts, all guessing why Pastor Phil was fired. The issue was never formally addressed by Mars Hill.
Communication is Key
What most people don’t understand about Mars Hill, is that running an organization of 15,000 members is a little tricky. Things take time to process, meetings need to be held, announcements need to be prepped, and next thing you know, it’s two weeks later and people are leaving the church because you’ve not addressed the accusations that are being written. More than an entire month after Pastor Phil was fired, Mars Hill and Mark Driscoll finally released a video indirectly addressing the conflict happening in the church.
A29 Calls for Driscoll to Step Down
A classic example of the miscommunication with Mars Hill happened yesterday, when Acts 29 removed Mars Hill from it’s extended network and called for Pastor Mark to step down and seek help. Simply being associated with Mars Hill, has a stigma and so A29 cut it’s ties,
“It is our conviction that the nature of the accusations against Mark, most of which have been confirmed by him, make it untenable and unhelpful to keep Mark and Mars Hill in our network.” – Acts 29
In an age of instant technology, churches and organizations don’t have the luxury of passive publicity. At least post on your Facebook page that you’re saddened by A29′s letter, and you’re working on a response, rather than posting pictures of the Easter baptisms, as if nothing happened at all. At the moment, however, Pastor Mark isn’t running his own Mark Driscoll Facebook page, because he stepped down from social media earlier this year.
Blatant Unrepentant Sin
The problem is that poor communication isn’t a sin. Bad theology is sinful, bad pastoring might be sinful, failing to love your congregation can be sinful, but poor communication isn’t something that requires a pastor stepping down from leadership, or a someone being put through church discipline. In the case of Pastor Mark, there isn’t blatant unrepentant sin. While poor communication has been hurting Mars Hill’s congregants, it is something that Mars Hill has recently stated that they’re working on, releasing weekly updates (starting 7.21.14) that are supposed to be more transparent. Mark Driscoll also apologized for the lack of communication in the weekly update post and stated that there would be change.
However, I can’t just dismiss the issues are Mars Hill. Even with public apologies and changes in the works, many people that I respect and trust, are leaving Mars Hill, and so I’ve made the decision to pray for change from outside the church. We’re leaving Mars Hill because we can’t be part of a church that isn’t able to communicate with it’s members and leaves us hanging in the air, while hundreds of false accusations are being thrown around.
Two Types of People
There are two types of people who will leave Mars Hill, and I hope I’m in the second category, because I honestly love Mars Hill, and wish the best for them. I hope there is a middle ground between condemnation and ignoring the problem. I hope there is a place where people can trust Jesus, and extend grace to Mars Hill.
1. Those Who Leave and Burn – for people who idolized Mars Hill or Mark Driscoll, the fact that there are issues with the church is particularly hard. For those who were overly invested in the church, rather than in Christ, transitioning from the church will bring about a lot of questioning of their core beliefs, and in turn, attacks against Mars Hill. These people have been hurt by the church, and it’s ending their world. They attack Mars Hill by changing their Biblical views and claiming that,
-Mars Hill is Theologically Off.
-Mars Hill is a cult.
Both of the statements are untrue, as Mars Hill holds to very Biblically orthodox and sound Biblical tradition. Though I’ve left Mars Hill, I still have the same Biblical views that I had when I attended the church. That doesn’t mean I hate homosexuals, but it does mean I support traditional marriage. It doesn’t mean I hate women, but it does mean I support biblical gender roles.
The fact that people are leaving Mars Hill and talking freely talking about their issues with the church, is a large indicator that the church is not a cult. Cults by definition have very few followers leaving, or talking about the cult at all, because they’re amazingly traumatized. It takes victims years to finally speak out against a cult, after the cult has been disbanded.
2. Those Who Leave and Learn – Leaving Mars Hill doesn’t change anything for these people, except for the fact that they’re leaving their community and a church that has solid Biblical teaching. There is sorrow in leaving your friends and fellowship. People who leave Mars Hill and learn from it, need to be praying for Mars Hill, extending grace to the church and continuing to support people who decide to stay at Mars Hill.
Why I Still Love Mars Hill
I’ve told this story before, and some of you may have read it before on my blog or in comments somewhere. I’ll tell it again, because when your identity is wrapped up in yourself, it’s amazing to be able to tell people about Jesus. Three years ago, I was a young, addicted, 20-something, who was full of himself and wanted to find out more about ministry. I interned at Mars Hill, and they required me to go through Redemption Groups- a couple weeks of Gospel training for people who need Jesus. Ironically, I didn’t think I really needed to be in the group, but during my time there, Jesus grabbed hold of me, and working through the people at Mars Hill, began to transform my life.
I don’t tell this story as any testament to my life, or even to the credit of Mars Hill, but Jesus changed me there, and I’m so grateful to the people who love Him at the church. There are many more stories of people who have been changed and impacted by people serving Jesus at Mars Hill. Today I’m married, my wife and I just had our first daughter, and I’m not addicted to porn anymore. I’m also just a little bit older, and a hopefully more full of Jesus than myself.
I don’t see unrepentant sin at Mars Hill, I just seem some areas that need serious work. I would continue to encourage Pastor Mark and Mars Hill to pursue transparency and good communication with Mars Hill members. If everything is about Jesus then live boldly, admit when you’re wrong, and love your congregation.
“Jesus doesn’t need your reputation! Keeping things in the dark and allowing souls to be destroyed by abuse, that shames the Gospel. Jesus is all about transparency.” – Boz Tchividjian
When I started writing this article, I thought I would be writing about sexual abuse, but the more I thought about it the more it went in another direction. In the past few years, and increasingly in the last few months, there have been many instances of sexual abuse cover-up- Gothard, Jones, Harris, and Phillips, just to name a few. The American Prospect has an amazing longform article detailing much more sexual abuse within the church, and how organizations like GRACE are educating Christians before it’s too late. However, my article isn’t as much about sexual abuse, as it is the culture in which that sexual abuse can be propagated. A culture that is engrossed in legalism.
What is legalism exactly? Wikipedia has an unusually accurate description:
“Legalism is usually a term referring to an over-emphasis on discipline of conduct, usually implying an allegation of misguided rigor, pride, superficiality, the neglect of mercy, and ignorance of the grace of God or emphasizing the letter of law at the expense of the spirit.”
Legalism says that convictions are mass standards, and that appearance is more important than truth. Legalism removes Holy Spirit conviction, by stating that its standards are more important than God’s personal work in an individual’s life. Legalism assumes that a single individual can state what God’s will is on another person’s life, and hold them to that standard. Legalism creates a spiritual hierarchy, bypassing the fact that all are equal in Christ (Galatians 3:28). Instead of people being led by the Holy Spirit, they must be led by spiritual authority, because their level of knowledge of scripture, or relationship with Christ is undeveloped. While all these things are spiritually detrimental, the effects they have on victims of sexual abuse are even more painful.
Legalism Empowers Abusers
Legalism hands the keys to sexual offenders, giving them every tool they need to silence the people they abuse. Because legalism also places leadership in a position where they are left with no choice but to cover abuse, legalism effectively silences victims as well. This is especially true if the leaders that the sexual abuse is reported to have had a history of sexual abuse as unreported victims or offenders. In the name of Christianity, an organization may silence a victim, by saying they’re trying to lead a perpetrator to repentance and offer forgiveness to them. This disregards the fact that they’re harming a victim, creating a cycle of shame within that person’s life. The lasting effects of this abuse are devastating to a person, and the failure to report sex crimes is not only illegal, but also dangerous as it allows the offender to continue to repeat sexual abuse.
Legalism Harms Children
When sexual abuse isn’t addressed, especially in the formative years of childhood, it is internalized. It rots in a victim’s soul, spilling gangrenous lies throughout their entire lives. This shapes the very core of who a person is, and can change body image, sexuality, lifestyle, and even will to live. 17%* of rape victims attempt suicide, while 33% of those victim have suicidal thoughts. Those statistics are only for people over the age of 12, however, so that doesn’t account for many victims of child sexual abuse.
Legalism is also responsible for discrediting victims. Because legalism is so stringently based around image and performance, people embracing a legalistic lifestyle find it easier to accuse a victim of lying or sexual promiscuity (even in children), than to expose sexual abuse as what it is. Most often people who have been abused don’t want a legal settlement, they want their dignity and cleanliness returned to them. They want to be restored and whole again.
Lies often stated to victims in these scenarios are:
“You need to pray to God to forgive you from your sinful behavior.” -Shaming
“That wasn’t really sexual abuse, because there wasn’t intercourse. You don’t want to destroy the perpetrator’s life, do you?” -Denial and Shaming
“You’re wrong, you were arousing the perpetrator. You aren’t really a victim here!” -Blame shifting
“You’re a liar! There isn’t any way the offender did this to you!” -Blame shifting
The Gospel Enables Transparency
Legalism is a clean well with a dead cat in it. It’s not the opposite of the gospel, it’s a polluted gospel. When we look at legalism, we see obedience without relationship. We see grimy fisted grabbing of white gloves that we attempt to put on our own dirty hands. We then hold those stained gloves up in front of others and state proudly, “Look at how clean I am!”
Performance based Christianity misses the entire point of gospel-driven Christianity, “That while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” -Romans 5:8. Until this point is grasped at a heart level, churches, leaders, and individuals will continue to press legalism onto their followers, friends, and family, in an attempt for them to conform to their own vision of perfection. When that vision of perfection is marred, they will quickly disown, discredit, and deride the people who ruined their false reality.
Boz Tchividjian states that less legalism within Christianity would help churches deal with their sins more easily,
“It would mean a church is OK with being transparent, and acknowledging failure,” Tchividjian says. “As a Christian, I tell institutions, your value and your reputation aren’t based on your accomplishments. If you’re [communicating] to the world through the gospel, your reputation has been secured for you by Christ. That should liberate you to be transparent, to acknowledge failure.”
Take that from the church level, and bring it to the personal level: As a Christian, your value isn’t based on your accomplishments or your failures, but on the living work of Jesus Christ. You’re free to be transparent, because your sin doesn’t own you anymore.
Two years ago, I was addicted to porn, watching it daily and hating myself for it. I couldn’t tell anyone, because my personal legalism stated that I had to look perfect for my family and the church, and shame covered my entire existence. I tried repenting, but ultimately would fail, because my sin was such a massive issue, I thought I had to atone for it by performance before Christ would forgive me. What I missed was the fact that Jesus had already taken that sin on his torn, bloody back and carried it to the cross, where he hung and died for it. As that truth took hold of me, it began to transform my core being and change the way I addressed my sin- not through performance, but through the life-transforming fact that my sin didn’t own me.
Legalism promotes an institutional culture of silence over a church’s failures, and over the failures of their leaders, but Christianity based around the active grace of Jesus Christ combats this culture of silence.
How to Fight Sexual Abuse
1). Being sexually abused is horrifically traumatic. People who have been abused can take many years to finally confide in someone that they were assaulted, and children who have been sexually abused may not even know they were assaulted until a later date. Children, however, don’t usually make up stories about sexual assault. If someone you know has come to you, asking for help or telling you about a sexual assault, take them seriously, don’t shift the blame, and go straight to the authorities. The victim should always be given the benefit of the doubt, because sexual perpetrators are extremely likely to repeat sexual abuse.
2). Skip the chain of command and go straight to the authorities. If someone you know has been sexually abused, go right to the authorities instead of trying to go through church leadership. Covering up sexual abuse is a crime, and statements like, “We’ll handle this internally.” or “we’ll self report” are often excuses that can lead to illegal activity, and continued abuse of the victim(s).
3). Take preventative measures if you have children. Christians are very vulnerable to abuse, because we believe that Christ can change anyone, and though that is true, sexual perpetrators easily take advantage of Christian naivety. A convicted child molester once told clinical psychologist Anna Salter,
“I considered church people easy to fool…they have a trust that comes from being Christians. They tend to be better folks all around and seem to want to believe in the good that exists in people.”
Make sure that your children are under your supervision as much as possible, and that church volunteer staff, have undergone background checks and interviews.
4). Don’t imagine that you, your children, or children that you know are safe from sexual abuse. This article is really important for homeschool families, who often think that they don’t have any reason to be wary of sexual abuse.
5). Educate your church and community on sexual abuse, and continue to fight against it. Fight legalism in your own life, and look closely into what legalism looks like and where it leads.
I love business, and I love starting companies. When I was 16, I started a site called, Cross-Eyed Blog and Webzine. As time went on, that site merged into Latitude821, (based around Romans 8:21) and we made a strong run with a lot of great articles and even a small book, until eventually, I moved on to other projects like getting married and deciding to have a kid.
My journey through of all this is what I wanted to share, because if you’re young, you’re in the exact same position that I was in: you’ve got a platform and there are literally million of people who need to know Jesus.
1). Know heart knowledge, first. When I was writing and speaking, I knew a lot. I could debate a lot of people, and had my theology down pat. In fact, I knew a lot more than some adults that were actually in churches. This was great and head knowledge has served me well in my life, but I didn’t know there was something so much deeper: the word of God, active and moving, applied directly to my heart. As I began to live that deeper relationship with Jesus, I came to find that my head knowledge didn’t matter, if my heart was falling behind, and I could know theology without actually having apply to who I was and what I did. The attitude of head and heart disconnect, lead to my broken heart and addiction to pornography. God in His saving grace, transformed my heart, and changed me.
Do you know about the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus? If that doesn’t break you, bury you, and raise you with Christ, new and changed, then it doesn’t matter what you know about it, or if you can say substitutionary atonement- You must be changed before knowledge matters!
2). Don’t hide. You’re a leader. You’re an innovator. You’re a teacher. Romans: 3:1 says, “Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.” That scares me, because there are so many areas that we fail as leaders, and if we aren’t constantly repenting and leading humbly, we will miss the grace that we’re supposed to be extending to others.
It’s amazingly easy to fall into hypocrisy. I was struggling with porn while I was working with my ministries and nobody knew about it. It wasn’t until later, that I was able to confess to my pastor and get help overcoming my weaknesses through a deeper understanding of the Gospel and accountability. I was then able to actually tell people I struggled with porn, and ask for their forgiveness in my weakness.
3). Lead by example and don’t be afraid to be weak. One of the best leaders I know has struggled with homosexuality, and been changed by the grace of God. He shares his story openly, because his identity is in the work of Jesus, not his past sin. Don’t be afraid to show how flawed you are, but walk by example, in the good works that Christ has appointed you to.
4). Remember that God has given you life. When younger, I worked in the pro-life movement. I think I saved lives, though I’ll never know for sure. I eventually left the movement, because I realize that people needed to be changed internally before they changed externally. I was really caught up in doing, doing, doing, without actually being, being, being. You’re doing good work, you’re making a difference, but remember that God has created the world for you to enjoy as well as influence.
5). You don’t matter. Finally, bouncing off that last point- you don’t matter at all. God will change hearts and lead people to Christ with or without you. Enjoy the fact that you get to be part of His massive story, which stretches from one side of history to the other. Be humbled by the fact that He has chosen you to walk in good works, and fight hard against sin and complacency.
I am constantly impressed with the innovation that young people show. I believe that teenagers have the ability to create great things and change lives. They just need to get out there, stay humble, trust God and do it.
It’s hard keeping up with the internet. I’ve not posted on this blog since January 3, because it’s hard to make time in my life to actually sit down and write something out, format it and get it online. I have a life away from the internet, a great accomplishment in the 21st century. I have writing that’s on paper and poems on lines with ink. I have letters to my fiancee and places that I take her that never end up in my news feed. I’m comfortable with that. I’m happy with that.
I constantly struggle with the balance between digital technology and physical life because I’m online a lot. I run multiples companies: Anchorfolk, Typeset, with their own social accounts, and they require a lot of work. There are things that are just more real than the internet, things that I can touch and feel and do and be.
Have you ever thought about just being away from the noise of the feed and the likes? Did you know you can sit still and listen to the sound of your breathing without browsing something, without constantly looking at something new?
You can stop for a moment and listen to the thoughts in your head: Let them hurt, let them bring the emotions they bring. Stop drowning them. Deal with them. Make peace with yourself.
Stop looking for the likes and the attention. Stop looking for constant affirmation for who you are and what you do. Become comfortable without the clamor of the outside. Invest in people, invest in relationships that matter. People that you can see and hear and touch, directly with your life. Stop looking at people as your platform or your audience. Be content with what is before you.
Reduce your online clutter, because it’s your choice whether you pick up a book or scan through Facebook again. It’s your choice whether you feed an imaginary world or cultivate real, tangible, relationships with people you love.
You’ve probably heard a request for men to man up recently- on someone’s Facebook, maybe in person, possibly even thrown at you, and something inside you wants to respond. There is an area in your life that is affected by the request, possibly many. Yet, your heart cry, the solution, is not simply for you to man up- it’s not for you to become more of a moral person, it’s for you to turn to Jesus Christ.
Christianity isn’t about transforming you into a man, Christianity is about you bringing glory to God and the simple by-product of that transformation is that you would be conformed- grown closer and into and more like Jesus Christ, the ultimate picture of manhood.
Your primary opponent in this struggle of conformation is most skilled in deception, John the Evangelist writes that,
“He (Satan)… Does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” -John 8:44.
His goal: to steal your joy, peace, dreams and future. He wants you for himself. You will be whispered his lies on this earth, and until you learn to recognize them, you may even fall victim to them. Here are five that I’ve struggled with:
“I’ll be more responsible when I get older.”
Being a man has nothing to do with your age or being able to shave. If you haven’t been made new by Jesus, you can be a boy until you die. New character comes from a heart tuned towards the Father: Fall on your knees and repent- ask him for inner character, and change!
“If I just try harder, I’ll be able to beat my addiction.”
Managing your temptation is not manning up. His perfection, his power and his resurrection are more powerful and trustworthy than your trying harder, doing better and hanging on longer. Lay down all of your efforts and say, “I trust in Jesus!”
“If women would stop dressing a certain way, I wouldn’t struggle so much.”
Stop blaming the media, technology and the clothes women wear, for your struggles with sexual purity. If the issue is how women dress, then why do you go home and pull porn up on your computer screen or lay in bed with it on your phone at night? This is a heart issue. Die to yourself. Don’t try harder, lay your struggles at the feet of Jesus and ask him to change you!
“I need more ______ to be a real man.”
Your identity will never be found in empty pursuits. Good things simply turn to idols if your focus isn’t on Jesus. You won’t be more of a man when you’re with a woman. You won’t be more of a man when you’re making money- Everything you need, is found in the person of the resurrected Christ and only in him.
“I’m a real man. I don’t need to submit to anyone.”
If you can’t follow, you can’t lead. Real men humbly submit to authority. First Jesus, second government and third, the church. A leader must always first know how to lead others.
Jesus > Manhood
At some point, manning up doesn’t work anymore. At some point, our morality fails, our persistence runs out, and we are just flawed men. And Jesus meets us most faithfully there, giving us grace for the struggle, even if it lasts our whole life. Are you a Christian? You’re made new in Christ. Find your identity, hope, peace and joy in him! Combat the lies that are thrown against you with the truth of who you are in Jesus. Let him love you.
I’ve been hurt enough to see the term, “friend” as self righteous. I know the heart cry of people desiring to be treated as friends, when the term is thrown about so easily. I was a little hesitant to start this article calling you my friend, but I still want you feel as though we are friends. No matter what walk of life you’re from, there are no strings attached. No matter what religion you call your own, no matter what sexuality you ascribe to, no matter what stage of life you’re in or what path you’re on- I want to be your friend. But first I want to apologize to you:
We’ve Been Wrong
There are Christians who will misrepresent Jesus for their own agenda, and sometimes even use the truth to attack people instead of loving them. Christians who move into rules and performance mode, instead of understanding the scandalous message of the Gospel. I’ve been one of those Christians, and I’ve been wrong. I know that I’m sorry is a small token for so large a hurt, and I know it may not be enough for you to forgive, but here it is.
I’m sorry that there are people who value their opinion more than you. I’m sorry that there are those who have lifted up personal convictions, and standards, hoisted them high and then dropped them en mass onto you. I’m sorry you’ve been hurt instead of loved, broken instead of healed, misused, mistreated and abused by people who call themselves Christians. Your pastor, maybe your parents or siblings, a relative or a friend. They were wrong.
Just know there is an apology extended, know that it’s there- That someone understands there’s been wrong done.
If there is one thing that you should take away from this post, it’s that you are important. This doesn’t have anything to do with your performance or your identity- it is intrinsic to you. You are full of value and worth, not dictated by anything that you say or do, simply because you reflect God (Genesis 1:27).
You are worth it. You were created for a purpose. You are loved.
The picture of each individual reflecting God is interesting. Think of all humanity as a large mirror, and think of sin as the hammer that breaks it. Each fragment still reflects God, but they now do so in a disjointed way. When light hits the mirror, the broken pieces reflect it in hundreds of directions, giving a partial picture, but often misrepresenting what should be shown clearly.
Truth is Still Truth
We’re flawed, and we don’t always reflect truth as it should be reflected, but God is still God. We’ve just done a bad job showing who he is. Light bouncing off a broken mirror can hurt. It is a constant struggle to reflect God accurately, to understand and apply the Gospel as it was meant to be. This isn’t an excuse for what has happened to you or a dismissal of your pain, but a cry that there is hope, forgiveness and healing through Jesus Christ. Look at who he is and what he has done for you! Through salvation, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalm 147:3
The Law Points to Grace
So much damage has been done by people who use the law to control people, but God’s desire isn’t to control you- He wants to give you life! The lie that you must live up to a standard, is one that Jesus died for. His grace covers your sin, his grace covers your failure, his grace covers your striving. Just. Be.
The Gospel is scandalous in the bare-bones fact that it doesn’t have anything to do with you any effort on your part. Ephesians 2:8-9 says it plainly, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.”
Grace is the key with which we unlock the law! While the law serves as a guide to follow, and the Gospel (the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus), gives us the ability to do what it says. The law shows us what unrighteousness is, but the Gospel gives us the ability to die to ourselves. Through the law, we are shown how to live a Christ-centered life, but only grace can sanctify us to that!
Don’t Give Up
Do you believe that Jesus Christ loves you beyond your own ability and inability, beyond your faithfulness and unfaithfulness, beyond the moments of sin and moments of sacrifice? Do you believe that God loves you now, exactly how you are and not as you should be? He loves you, even when every part of you refuses him, rejects him and is repulsed by him. Don’t give up. The only place you will find rest and peace, is in the person of Jesus Christ.
The internet could be easily described as a minefield and nobody walks through a maze of IEDs without getting hurt, or hurting someone else. Observing the minefield doesn’t just happen once, your course must be charted each and every time you plan to cross it. In your daily interactions online, it’s vital to chart your course according to the people you interact with and what they have to say.
It’s essential to understand a person’s point, if you want to avoid miscommunication.
-What is the person trying to communicate?
-What is the full context?
-Does it line up with their worldview?
Once you’ve studied the point, it’s equally important to examine it against a Christian worldview.
-What does scripture say about this?
-Is is aligned with the Gospel?
-If this statement is true, what does it mean for my worldview?
This is the only optional point: If your response is negative, you always have the choice whether or not to respond. Check your motives, check your heart, and ask if it is crucial that you reply.
In my post, 5 Reasons Why Your Debate Isn’t Helpful, I listed a few motives for debate: We usually debate because we want to prove a point, convince the other person to agree with us or defend our position. These should never be priorities over the call to love and serve our brothers and sisters in Christ. Is your post necessary, clear, angry, annoying or correct? Evaluate if you should publish it by that criteria.
The Internet is Permanent
Even if you delete your conversation or post, the internet has made it possible for your post to impact dozens of people, before you have the chance to take it down. Think through your content! How does it point to Jesus, and further his mission?
I’ll admit it freely: Guys want to fix problems. We want things to be normal. But maybe it isn’t just a guy thing- don’t we all want a peaceful existence? Don’t we all life to go smoothly without hiccups or glitches?
Call It What It Is
When presented with conflict, my mother always said one thing, “This isn’t just ‘drama,’ it’s sin!” If we’re going to get to the root of the problem, if we’re really going to dig deeply and find out what causes us to have conflict, we’re going to have to name it: We’re sinners. The human heart is corrupt. If that rubs you the wrong way, then you haven’t been reading your Bible, specifically Jeremiah 17:9 and Matthew 15:19.
Where guys find themselves in trouble, primarily in relationships, is when they want to fix the problem. How many times have you heard a woman say, “I wish he would just listen instead of trying to find a solution!” Yet again, it isn’t just guys trying to fix the problem, we all want reconciliation from conflict. Everyone has a deep longing for something better. A longing for peace. The hard thing is letting go of our innate desire to be the savior, while constantly running to our effective cultural saviors: Money, comfort, pleasure and power.
Christ is The Only True Savior
Jesus is the only one who takes this thing we call life, and changes it into something worth living. Christ is the only effective savior who can extend a hand, a solution and say, “I’m going to take your sin, I’m going to take it on my shoulders.” He’s the only one who can say, “I’ve chosen you to be children of God, I redeem you and love you as you are, not as you should be.” This is what he does on the cross, this is where he extends an open invitation to grace.
Do you actually believe, that Christ loves you with unconditional love? In the moment of your greatest sin, in the minute of your utmost rebellion, hatred and scorning of the cross, do you believe that he can’t stop loving you? Jesus didn’t come to make you a better person, he came to make you alive! He came to raise your dead bones and change your entire state of being!
We Mirror Christ
When we are grasped by the reality of grace, when it grabs hold of our heart, our attitudes can’t help but change. We are saved through Christ, to the freedom of good works. It’s cause and effect in it’s most basic form. With grace comes an understanding that we don’t take Christ’s place as savior, we can’t be the solution to problems, but we mirror Christ in the way we respond to them. Christ lived with people who had problems, Christ listened to people with problems, and most importantly, Christ loved people with problems. “Go therefore and do likewise.” -Luke 10:37
I started this project with three elements: An amazing picture of a forest, some great coloring knowledge and a verse that really spoke to me. All there were separate entities until suddenly, they came together to make the Eternal wallpaper.
“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” -2 Corinthians 4:16-18
I wasn’t super occupied with doing something unique with the text, the image had so much color work done on it, and there were so many different elements contained in the picture of the forest, that I wanted it to stand out almost as much as the text. I want the person who views this to feel that snap of the pine needles under their feet and the almost golden glow of the light through the trees. I want them to smell the pine and get sap on their fingers. I wanted sensory input on the wallpaper, not just a focus on the text. I think it turned out well. Download it below.
A few notes: 320 x 480 is for your iPhone; 1024 x 1024 is for your iPad; your desktop or laptop may take any of the other sizes depending on your monitor size and a host of other considerations. If you’re not sure of the size, just find one that looks like it would be pretty much the same size as your screen. Generally you set one of these are your wallpaper by clicking on the link to the image, then right-clicking on the image (once it’s open) and selecting “Set as Background,” “Set as Desktop Background,” or something similar. If you aren’t sure, post a comment and we’ll try to help you figure it out.
I’ve always wondered why some people insist on watermarking their photos. It’s almost as if they’re worried that their picture won’t belong to them without a their logo placed across it. However, most of the professional photographers that I know, refuse to watermark their photos, and after a few conversations and a little personal experience, I’ve discovered why.
1). People Rarely Steal Pictures
The internet hasn’t just grown significantly in the last 17 years or so, it’s exploded. In the next three years, internet traffic is expected to quadrupedal. In 2010, the data stored on the internet, was over 1 zettabyte. If you don’t now how big that is, take a look at this chart. At the same pace as the internet grows, new services and companies are popping up, many offering free user contributed stock photos, and while these services are increasing in popularity, new pictures on the internet are like someone dumping a handful of sand on a beach. Professional photographers recognize that even if they have a huge audience, the likelihood of someone stealing those pictures isn’t all that high.
2). Any Publicity is Good Publicity
Ever wonder why designers never watermark anything, even though there are hundreds of sites with thousands of quality designs on them? Because we like free publicity, better than we like protecting our creations. I’ve been designing for over 7 years and I’ve never had anyone steal my art, slap it on a shirt and try to sell it. If they had, I would have asked for percentages and wrote a blog about it.
3). Direction is Key
Photographers and graphic artists alike, learn that one of the most important elements of their work is composition. The way the picture is laid out, where the viewers eye travels, it’s all part of taking the perfect shot or designing the perfect logo. Professional photographers refuse to slap a watermark in the middle of their perfectly composed picture, because it detracts from the message they are trying to convey.
4). Branding Identifies
Professional photographers aren’t worried about their work not being recognized. Eventually people come to recognize their brands by the kinds of pictures they take and the quality of their shots, not by a logo that they slap onto their art. One of the only exceptions is a 50×50, semi-transparent logo placed in the right or left corner of the picture.
5). Watermarking is Annoying
Professional photographers don’t enjoy looking at art with watermarks all over it. Nobody does. Not only because it detracts from the quality of the picture, but because most photographers don’t take time to get a solid logo built by someone who isn’t a photographer, but rather a graphic designer.
Next time you think about watermarking a photo, just thing of all the “pro photographers” on instagram who want your job.